It Didn't Kill You

I always want to please everyone I love and to be there at their beck and call, but then I realized that yeah ok fine, I do what others want to make them happy but what about for myself. I have this huge problem with telling the people I care for no or doing things for myself. I had this mindset that if so and so can move like that or if so and so has the energy then why can't I. Like I would compare myself to others so much because of wanting to be the best and please everyone until I didn't even trust myself. I would make decisions for my benefit and second guess myself. I always felt like if I wanted to be a certain way I had to act like the person who had what I wanted. Like when it came to friendships or even a lifestyle, but after many lessons, I realized that this thinking is all wrong. I don't know if I adopted this mindset because of how I raised but it was certainly causing me trouble. Living with that mindset I was so uncomfortable because, in all honesty, I wasn...

I sometimes dislike the times we live in now, because it is driven by "perfection".  On social media, all you see is the green side of people's lives, but we all know that there are some dry patches behind that camera. Seeing people live luxuriously all the time can cause some of us to chase other peoples dreams for all the wrong reasons. As well, it can cause some people to lose their authenticity. I'm tired of this like it really gets under my skin. Everyone wants to be IT, the star,  or the one. Yet, I have met many people who are truly amazing but are wrapped up is this social standard. They don't feel comfortable being the person God has made them. Don't be the person who reads this and says "well they just need to learn how to be themselves" because a lot of yall have pretended to be someone else for so long you don't even know who you are. That's why some of yall act out, always drinking, smoking, having sex, gossiping, etc. You do eve...